Recently, I have noticed that what had originally appeared to be a trend in the homeschooling community has become the dominant narrative. Overly simplified slogans are being proliferated and shared across instagram and social media sites at a rapid pace.
At first this trend didn’t appear noteworthy. I happen to agree that childhood should be protected. I agree that children shouldn’t fail kindergarten because they haven’t yet learned to read. I agree that a student who doesn’t understand fractions conceptually in 4th or 5th grade is not doomed for life and will certainly be relegated to the non-STEM fields once they reach adulthood.
However, lately it appears that these platitudes have evolved into more of an echo chamber– and a dangerous one at that.
What appears most disturbing is that many bystanders don’t even recognize the shift that has taken place or the reality of how these unexamined statements that are being packaged as pedagogy will lead to frustration, dead ends, and most likely undereducation.
Logical Fallacies Disguised as Guiding Principles
Raise your hand if you have ever seen any of the following messaging while scrolling your social media:
“Baking is math.”
“There is no behind!”
“No curriculum is more important than your relationship with your child.”
“My child will pursue the trades so this doesn’t apply to us.”
“Kids learn best through real life.”
“My cousin was homeschooled and he’s a successful entrepreneur.”
“School is unnatural.”
“Kids will learn what they need when they need it.”
“Einstein failed at math.”
“Why learn this when you have a computer (phone) in your pocket?”
We will look at each statement in kind, and discuss what is particularly problematic about each.
“Baking is math.”
Aside from the obvious issue with the fact that basic fractions are a third grade standard, this statement provides the first example of an oft repeated logical fallacy in the homeschooling community.
This is an example of a false equivalent/oversimplification/category error. While baking does involve numbers, ratios, measurement, and basic fraction calculations, equating baking with learning mathematics as a whole is a false equivalence. The two are not the same.
The cognitive processes and intellectual demands are different. Baking involves the procedural following of measurements. Mathematics involves abstraction, symbolic reasoning, proof, and generalization, etc. The statement that baking is math suggests that because baking uses numbers, it provides the same value as studying math– which it does not. The statement reassures parents that academic math instruction is not necessary because everyday activities purportedly replace it.
“There is no behind!”
This is an example of a definitional fallacy/relativism/moving the goal posts. The statement attempts to eliminate a measurable concept (academic progress, or lack thereof), by redefining the terms.
In reality, educational progress can be measured relative to:
- literacy /fluency benchmarks
- Math competency
- College readiness
- Standardized expectations
(I have written more at length on this particular point in my instagram post entitled, “Bell Curves & Reality,” if you would like more specific information on the perceived lack of relativism. I have also written specifically on the utility of testing and standards in homeschooling.)
Saying there is “no behind” avoids having to evaluate whether a student is making progress academically. In doing so, it removes the pressure to assess academic progress by claiming that progress cannot or should not be measured.
See also, “Standards don’t matter.” or “Standardized testing has no value.”
“No curriculum is more important than your relationship with your child.”
This is an example of a false dichotomy. It frames the issue as a choice between one of two competing interests: (1) academic instruction, and (2) the parent-child relationship. In reality, these interests are not mutually exclusive. Parents can maintain a strong relationship with their children while also providing rigorous academic instruction. The statement creates an emotional pressure by implying that parents who prioritize academics are somehow de-prioritizing their relationship with their child. The statement itself is pejorative.
Many common homeschool slogans rely on these kinds of logical shortcuts that appear on their face to be reassuring, but collapse readily when scrutinized logically.
“The Trades” Straw Man
Another incredibly widespread logical crime is the use of the trades as a straw man in counterargument to any perceived mention regarding the necessity of increased academic rigor.
A straw man fallacy is the misrepresenting of someone’s argument in order to make it easier to dismiss.
If a person argues that, “students should receive a rigorous academic education,” and someone else responds, “my child is going into the trades, so academics don’t matter,” that recharacterizes the original argument as, “everyone must go to college.” Or more realistically, “the point of an education is only future college attendance.” But that was not the claim. The original argument was about general academic preparation, not college only pathways. So in this context, the trades trope functions as a straw man.
It also often serves as a false dichotomy as it implies that the choice is between either an academically rigorous education or a future in the trades. Logically, again, the two concepts are not mutually exclusive. In fact, many trades require at least a high school diploma including completion of at least Algebra, and all of the other requirements that lead to basic competencies across subject areas.
“Kids learn best through real life.”
This is an example of an overgeneralization fallacy. While real-world experiences are obviously valuable, the claim that they replace structured learning is inaccurate. Many academic skills, such as algebra, scientific reasoning, and formal academic writing, do not spontaneously arise in the course of daily life.
“My cousin was homeschooled and he’s a successful entrepreneur.”
This is an example of anecdotal fallacy/survivorship bias. (See also trade’s trope.) A single example cannot demonstrate that an educational approach consistently produces strong outcomes. Success stories are often highlighted while less successful outcomes are ignored or downplayed.
See also, causation vs. correlation fallacy.
“School is unnatural.”
This is an example of an appeal to nature fallacy. The argument presumes that something is good or preferable simply because it is “natural.” Many beneficial human practices are not natural. Additionally, crows provide just one example that systematic instruction does actually occur in the natural world. (In case the link becomes broken, the article is entitled, “Crows Perform Yet Another Skill Once Thought Distinctively Human,” by Scientific American. Hint, it’s about grammar.)
“Kids will learn what they need when they need it.”
This is an example of magical thinking/unfalsifiable claim fallacy. This statement assumes that future learning will occur automatically without providing for a mechanism by which complex skills will be acquired. It also cannot be easily tested or evaluated in order to assess the veracity.
“Einstein failed at math.”
This is an example of a myth based anecdote. This claim is historically inaccurate, and it is used rhetorically to argue that academic performance does not matter. In reality, Einstein excelled in mathematics from an early age.
According to sources, by age 12, he was studying calculus on his own and taught himself differential and integral calculus by 15– after years of incremental mathematical instruction.
“Why learn this when you have a computer (phone) in your pocket?”
This is an example of a false premise/technological solutionism. The argument presumes that having access to a device is the equivalent to having understanding. The internet accesses information that has already been created. Education creates an internal knowledge structure that allows individuals to:
- Reason through problems
- Connect ideas across subjects
- Detect errors
- Think critically
- Identify underlying assumptions and bias in the presentation of information
- Spot logical errors and identify fallacies
A calculator, search engine, or AI application can assist, but it cannot replace the background knowledge that makes thinking possible.
This fallacy frames foundational learning as outdated because technology exists.
Why These Slogans Spread in Homeschool Culture
Most of these statements persist because they serve an emotional purpose. Homeschooling can feel overwhelming, and simple slogans provide reassurance. Several specific dynamics help these ideas circulate.
- Anxiety Reduction
Home educators carry a unique responsibility in that — in most cases– they are both the parent (care taker/guardian) and educator. When doubts arise as to whether children are progressing academically, reassuring phrases like, “there’s no behind,” can help to alleviate that pressure. They function as comfort statements rather than educational arguments.
- Reaction Against School Trauma
Many families homeschool because of negative experiences with traditional schooling. These can include the fallout from standardized testing, unresponsive pacing, and other classroom related challenges. As a result, some homeschooling communities reject anything remotely resembling conventional academic structure. In these environments, rigor can — and often is– mistakenly considered presumptively harmful rather than providing the potential for growth and development outside of the school system.
- Social Media Incentives
Algorithms favor content that is emotionally affirming, simple, and shareable. A phrase like “baking is math” spreads quickly because it is comforting and easy to repeat– not to mention memorable. A nuanced discussion of mathematical development does not go viral as easily (if at all). Over time, memes can replace critical thinking.
- Community Norms
In many homeschooling circles, especially online ones, questioning these slogans can feel (and be) socially risky. Parents may hesitate to discuss academic standards for fear of appearing competitive, judgemental, or overly strict. (See, e.g. relationship vs. academics fallacy supra.) As a result, these slogans persist because few people challenge them publicly.
The Reality of Pinterest Based Living
Another more global consideration that seldom receives scrutiny is the actual corporate nature of visually based platforms such as Pinterest. Many homeschooling parents (myself included I admit) lament that they wish their homeschools were more aesthetic and “Pinterest worthy.” But what is the purpose of Pinterest? Why does it prefer watercolor based printables, and warm wooden or neutral aesthetics?
The answer is rather simple: Pinterest exists to sell you something. Its primary function is advertising and product discovery. Content that spreads well there is:
- Visually appealing
- Emotionally comforting
- Simple to replicate
- Connected to a product, curriculum or aesthetic
Homeschool content that rises to the top of the algorithm — regardless of platform– often favors things like beautiful nature journals, seasonal crafts, cozy book stacks, or themed learning activities. All of which contribute to a lovely homeschool. However, those things also photograph remarkably well, which in turn makes them highly shareable.
The core work of academic learning — solving math problems, revising essays, reading dense texts, practicing grammar, working through difficult concepts — doesn’t protograph nearly as well. And so, it quietly disappears from the visual narrative.
Over time, parents scrolling through social media may begin to internalize this unrealistic model of what homeschooling looks like:
- Aesthetically pleasing
- Activity-driven
- Relaxed
- Emotionally affirming
What’s missing from that picture is the far less glamorous side of education:
- Sustained effort
- Intellectual struggle
- Repetition
- Correction and feedback
- Pushback from the student when things get challenging or, gasp, boring!
The result of this convergence is a subtle, systematic, shift of realistic expectations. Instead of asking whether a child is learning deeply, parents begin to ask whether their homeschool looks like the ones online– and if not, why? The issue is not that these beautiful highly photographic moments exist, it’s that they are often mistaken for the whole of education.
Pinterest is designed to sell beautiful ideas. Education is slow, repetitive, and intellectually demanding. The parts of learning that matter most rarely photograph well.
Reading Comprehension
Education scholar E.D. Hirsch Jr., most well known for his, What your [Xth] Grader Needs To Know, series addresses this phenomena tangentially in his book How to Educate a Citizen: The Power of Shared Knowledge to Unify a Nation. Harper, 2020. In it, he argues that modern education — and he is specifically referring to within the classroom– often drifts towards activities that look engaging but fail to build the knowledge students actually need. Hirsch criticizes the tendency for classrooms to rely on worksheets, projects, and loosely connected exercises meant to teach “skills” such as critical thinking or reading strategies. These activities may appear lively and productive, but Hirsch emphasizes, comprehension and reasoning rely primarily on accumulated prior knowledge. When instruction replaces sustained knowledge building with activity driven learning, students may remain busy without actually developing the intellectual foundation required for rigorous study.
More than two thousand years ago, Aristotle argued that education exists primarily for the purpose of cultivating the intellectual virtues necessary for human flourishing. (Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics, I.7,II.1) Wisdom and understanding, he wrote, arise through instruction and deliberate training. That vision of education is very different from the comforting slogans that circulate today. Flourishing does not emerge accidentally. It requires discipline, guidance, and the slow formation of intellectual habits.
The Problem with Libertarian Paternalism in Education
The idea of Libertarian Paternalism is most commonly attributed to Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein as set forth in their book Nudge. In it, they argue that decision-makers can purportedly preserve freedom while simultaneously guiding people towards making more beneficial choices. The assumption underlying their theory is that humans are not always rational decisionmakers, and therefore the onus is on the more benevolent and wise decisionmakers to restrict the potential options available so that the people will be choosing from two or more pre-selected and preferable outcomes.
The key question is always: who is doing the choosing?
In home education, it’s not the child. It’s the parent.
When parents say, or believe, things like, “my child will go into the trades,” or “kids learn what they need when they need it,” or “there’s no behind,” the child is not exercising freedom of choice. The parent has already chosen the educational strategy that will determine which options remain available later on.
If, as a result, the student never develops strong literacy, mathematical ability, or analytical skills, the range of their possible futures narrows long before the student is old enough to make meaningful educational decisions for themselves.
Education is one of the most path dependent areas of life. Skills not developed during childhood are incredibly difficult to acquire later on.
As Livingstone so aptly put it, “To be unable to sift the evidence, to confuse the essential facts with unimportant details, to miss the bearing of a point, to be deluded by sentiment or passion or rhetoric or humbug, whether it be in politics, education, business, or private life, means failure, as its opposite means success…The knowledge may be picked up later, but the training of the mind never.” Livingstone, R. W. A Defence of Classical Education., London: Macmillan and Co., Limited, 1916, reprinted Memoria Press (2024).
A rigorous education keeps doors open.
A weak education quietly closes them.
This is why the language of freedom can become misleading in educational debates. What appears to be freedom in the present may limit a young person’s actual freedom to choose in the future.
Children cannot yet evaluate the long term consequences of educational decisions. That responsibility falls to the adults guiding and raising them.
Providing a strong education is not about controlling a child’s future.
It is about ensuring that when they are finally capable of choosing, they have as many options as possible.
When adults reduce a child’s education, they are not expanding freedom. They are making a decision about that child’s future before they are old enough to decide.
Educational freedom belongs to the student who grows up with many options, not the adult who chooses to limit them early.
(I invite you to read more about Libertarian Paternalism here: Epstein, Richard A., 2018. “The Dangerous Allure of Libertarian Paternalism,” Review of Behavioral Economics, now publishers, vol. 5(3-4), pages 389-416, December.)
In Closing
If we reject Libertarian Paternalism for ourselves, then we should certainly not accept it for our children either.
Adults resist systems that quietly constrain their choices while claiming to preserve freedom. Yet when we reduce the quality of a child’s education, we are committing a similar act: shaping the boundaries of the child’s future before they are old enough to understand the consequences or do anything to change their future fate.
A rigorous education does not limit a child’s freedom. In fact, it is the very thing that makes actual freedom possible.
The Supreme Court has long recognized that parents generally act in the best interest of their children. In Parham v. J.R., 442 U.S. 584 (1979), the Court recognized that parents are generally presumed to care deeply about the welfare of their children and that they therefore make decisions accordingly.
I believe that presumption is correct. Most homeschool parents are motivated by a sincere desire to give their children a better education and therefore a better life.
The challenge is that good intentions do not automatically lead to good outcomes. In an environment utterly saturated with comfort slogans, marketing, and carefully curated images of homeschooling, even thoughtful parents can be misled about what a meaningful education actually requires.
The question is not whether parents love their children. The question is whether the educational culture surrounding homeschooling is encouraging parents to give children the intellectual tools they will most certainly need as adults.
Caveat emptor.
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